Question: I’m reaching out to you with a heavy heart, seeking your spiritual perspective on a deeply troubling matter affecting my family. My eldest daughter, who is currently in medical school, has entered into a relationship with a young man of Indian heritage who wears a turban and does not share our Orthodox Christian faith. This development has left me feeling deeply conflicted, as it appears she may be distancing herself from the traditional values and beliefs in which she was raised. I continue to support her fully — emotionally and financially — as she pursues her studies far from home. However, the emotional weight of this situation is becoming overwhelming and is now taking a physical toll on me as well. I would be truly grateful for your spiritual counsel on how to navigate this difficult journey with faith, love, and wisdom.
Answer from Fr Andrew Lemeshonok: If they are truly committed, you will need to achieve something extraordinary—become like the apostles. You will have to bring this Indian gentleman to Christ — there is no other way. How might you go about it? I imagine he is more likely to be reciting "Hare Krishna" than saying our prayers. You simply must learn to love this man — if it is genuine — if your daughter's feelings for him are heartfelt. What choice do you have, really? Love does not care about age or where someone is from. You will need to do it all: welcome him, understand his ways, bring him along to church, and begin sharing the faith with him. As it happens, the Apostle Thomas spread the word in India — Christian tradition there goes back centuries. You ought to conduct yourself in such a way that this man in his turban will set it aside and embrace Orthodox life. I am quite sure you will make it work.
