Question: When I was 39, we had our third child. I was 39 when my wife and I divorced. We had three children then. She lost all interest in me when we had our last child after almost twenty years of married life. She attempted suicide after we had lived together for 19 years. After her fourth suicide attempt, she asked for a divorce, and I agreed. We divorced officially, but not in the church. That happened ten years ago, in 2012. Now I wish to remarry. What should I do?
Answer: You have children, but you do not seem to have a family. I hope you are still keeping a relationship with your children. You may approach the bishop of your diocese to request the dissolution of your church marriage.
I pray that in your new marriage you will learn from the mistakes of your last one, and not just those of your ex-wife, but your own.
You must understand why your wife had lost interest after your third child, and why she lost interest in life. Something in your situation may have depended on you, not just on your wife. You should analyse the reasons carefully to avoid repeating the same mistakes in your new family.
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